Emotional Lover 🦋
Sometimes I really wish, i never met you 
But then when i think, i would have never realized my potential and intensity of love.
My deepest fear of losing the one i love always curbed my days 
I never knew i had gallons of water stored in my tiny eye sac.
I wonder, if you really got a grasp of the love i hold for you 
It weighs me down, it pushes me.
When you look at another women it doesn't make me sad, it always make me feel i am not enough 
My heart keeps weeping when you dusts of my feeling in your logical world, my magical feeling called love is fading away.
When my heart races, i force them not to fall in other lie of you.
For the tears you ignored, for the voices i have voiced in strong desire to get you back, in those hard days where my soft heart was killed when you called out my name with love i once craved for I am surprised it is not in love with you anymore but now it's ready to play some games of you chasing me like a man 


The Curve Between The Fairy Lights

"When Kevin and Ann decided to keep it warm between the fairy lights."
It has been one year after our marriage, Kevin or I haven't felt any great difference, other than our news of a new addition to complete us as a family. One year of marriage was absolutely a fun ride, settling abroad, like a country in London.I wasn't sure about my parent's idea of me getting married and then moving to London.Marriage is always considered a societal institution which requires lots of effort, understanding and emotional stability. Am i ready to embrace or share my space with someone? Whenever i had to cross a thought the intensity of the whole notion escalates like something too exhausting.
 Everything happened so fast, receiving my DL and meeting Kevin through a matrimonial site,our first real encounter can be called an arranged blind date, apart from all others this date happened outside my boundary space that too this time i was alone.The place was a downtown cafe, a well checked in place where i have never been.The insta reviews told it served best food with a delicate ambience , so if this didn't go well, i would definetly have my favourite food and shop a sneakers. Keeping a back up plan to wake up from the uncertainty  of rejection, I was pretty equipped mentally to face any lows without a sheer chance of ups. To avoid the anxiety and awkward mannersims. I reached at Downtown than speculated time and started reading the menu. No matter where i go, my comfy food code is biryani. So, if this is not going well i will order chesse burger and Chicken pizza along with mutton biryani, also paneer tikka and one scoop of chocolate icecream, because bad memory can be outcasted by a good gut memory. The plan was perfect for an uneventful date. But what if it turned so well...!  All i have is vague facial familiarity that too captured, through the virtual  clips.Whatever.. I can wait for the best, this is not end of it. I need to see fairy tales and some more rom-com to pacify the love deeds. 
Exactly after half an hour, i gets call from an unknown number.
Unknown Number :Hello!Kevin here
Ann:Hai,
Kevin :Where are you?
Ann:Downtown cafe.
Kevin :Downtown cafe... I am also at the same place..?
Ann:I am at the upstairs
Kevin:Okey, i am coming.
Ann(Nice voice though, seems like friendly, well my pattern of thinking can be obsessive at times, which can create lots of expectations, stop contemplating the good, i had to warn myself before i start liking blindly )
Kevin  (I hope she is hungry too, who climbs stairs when downstairs has vaccant seats, is there any elevator ?Looks around and sighs... Oh no! everyone is taking steps, Here I am climbing steps ta da da (I walk an empty road -Boulevard of broken dreams ).1,2,3....... 25 steps, there are 25 steps. By the by Where is she? Ann nnn.. Gotcha )
Ann's thoughts(A smart looking guy, that was my first impression when Kevin walked into the room, not only me, everyone had an eye on him. He was cool, calm and held the most welcoming smile.)
Kevin(Looks different from photo, I hope she loves Biriyani )

Ann:Hai(Smiles)
Kevin :Hai(Smiles)
A second of silence, eventually broke, lightly.
Kevin :How was your journey?
Ann:Good!
Ann(I think, i am hungry )What should i do?
Kevin (Sneaks at his cellphone ):Oh!its 1 o clock.
Ann sees Kevin sneaking phone.
Ann(I knew it, this is not going to work ).
Kevin:Ann, I think we both need to have some food.
Ann :Yeah why not...(I am hungry too, but i was confused, because last time when i met a guy he bought chicko shake just to convince me, he is not to marriage, I can't take this anymore, Appa and Amma everytime.... God).
Kevin :Sorry Aren't you hungry.
Ann :Yeah I am, literally i had nothing in the morning.
Kevin :Oh is it, Then you should definetly have something boozifying like..
Ann:Biriyani...
Kevin :Mmm.. Not just Biriyani, Mutton!
Ann:Yes! That is my favourite.
Kevin:same here(We like same food, Fin!)
Kevin :I have not known many people who love mutton biriyani. Mum cooks mostly beef and chicken.
Ann :Same here!Mutton is the most underated meat.
Kevin:Mostly because of its high rates.
Ann:True that, we buy them on two ocassions, Christmas and Easter.
Kevin:We buy them rarely at home, that is not my case at all, i have them twice or thrice in a month when i am with my friends.
Ann:Lucky man
Kevin :I tried cooking it once.
Ann:Aha!So do you cook.
Kevin:Occasionaly, when the situation demands, something like eggs, tea and chapathis.How about you?
Ann :Well, yes i kinda cook almost everything 
Kevin :Everything!(Perplexed)
Ann:looks may be deceiving 
Kevin :I agree..
Laughs..
By the time waiter comes and serves hot mutton biriyani. I understood the mutton biriyani was an ice-breaker for both of us. From 1pm amd 4pm for the first time in my life, Kevin and me had cheese burger, chicken pizza and one scoop of chocolate icecream. I could conversate with my alter ego, that is what i felt .That day, it was too short. I got my spark after a long wait. We both hugged and parted for ever more. To decide, to say yes from my side to his side and his side to mine became easy.
. Ever since our first meeting, there was an instant connection, maybe that is what people call spark! text messages and phone calls weren't too long, it was all about that spark and just a 10minute conversation every day, or too short emails occasionally. After three weeks of marriage, we both flew to London, he became my best friend and the best comfort zone in no time. One year went so fast, I mean I have never counted days or seconds with him until the Facebook reminded me of our first anniversary. Then exactly after one week getting to know that I have conceived. I was excited and worried at the same time. I asked Kevin! Are you ready to be a father? He answered Absolutely! It would be fun, I was watching cute baby videos since last few days, and was wishing for one, this is surprise. Ann, were you expecting this?
Ann: Yeah! I am excited, I am also worried. 
He slowly held his hand, casted his eyes upon me with assurance, with a warm smile and said
I can understand, you are not alone in this journey ,We will make this world a better place for this soon to be born baby. However you will be my constant. 

Kevin knew to handle stress and bring peace just like that, the way he says he does, whenever he speaks he just bring his feelings to eyes and that is how I knew he meant it. 
First, trimester-He isn't an ardent reader, but for the baby and me, he read books, articles to teach me regarding maternity, parenting although I work as a nurse, I treasure his efforts to make this special at every sense, he joins in exercises, prepare food I crave, clean untidy. Despite all his efforts, I was badly missing my mom,her level of understanding, what I was craving most was her food especially the special Aviyal, yellow mooru curry, and sambhar. Already he was doing too much. Taking care of all the tiny things so well , I couldn't just ask him more and notifying  more may discourage the in built  understanding . Kevin was and is too good to say a no.There is one thing we have decided no matter what happens we will always find and engage in our quality time. It could be in the anytime of the day. Most of the time it would be evening, either we go for a walk or just sit with a coffee and talk about our day, random memories, laugh and tease that is the best time of our day. Those conversations are which has taken us to the extra mile. So, after two weeks, inside what I was really missing, I was finding it difficult to word peculiarly about Mom. After work, I was pretty exhausted so we cancelled the plan of short walk settled instead for a coffee date at the balcony. Balcony was one what we were looking in an apartment, I still remember how patiently Kevin waited for finding the perfect apartment, apart from finding, he also helped in decorating home the commited patience, as well as persistence,  has made this home beautiful that is the reason, why every nook and corner of our new home holds  lots emotions and memories. The balcony is the one which has got a lot of attention, there is a vertical garden, on the right corner, a small white round table with two zebra coloured chairs placed facing the view of the city. We switch to mat & pillow combo during off days to watch our favourite Netflix series. The glass door to the balcony is decorated with fairy lights, our random silly pictures which we take every month for no reason at all. So every month we keep changing those pictures in the fairy light strings at the end of the month, we write a special thank you note mentioning something special about each other, those notes are kept in a box, burnt after every three months. 
Well, now you may think why so formal, both of us believed in gratitude,we never knew how to be romantic ,as we never had any idea about how to be how in relationships ,till we got married.The arranged marriage setup is quite different, but we both believed little million things , love & gratefulness will definitely make it up. 

As I was exhausted, Kevin rushed to the kitchen, prepared some hot coffee and brought it to the balcony.
Kevin: Here is the hot coffee and the man. 
Ann (Smiles) 
Kevin: So, how was your day? 
Ann: It was alright, I had few episodes of emesis and I was shifted to Opd for my rest of the duty, by god's grace the warden in-charge is so understanding. So, after 12noon I didn't have any kind of distress. 
Kevin: That is great! 
Ann: And, you? 
Kevin: Well, it was ok, My boss runs with artificial intelligence he doesn't know emotions, it speaks and express in binary numbers. 
Ann: You exactly sound like a Robot.The software engineer with a soft heart and hard-hearted computer. 
Kevin: Waah! I thought your humour sense eloped with your pregnancy. (Giggles) 
Ann: Yeah, it just came back for a minute to say bye to your bad day. 
Kevin: Haha, that wasn't funny at all. 
Ann: Is it? 
Kevin: Well, it's our off tomorrow, what is the plan? 
Ann: I am sorry to inform my duty got changed with Rita, she urgently had to go to her hometown. 
Kevin: What (annoyed) It was our movie day. 
Ann: Just for one day. Her mom is sick it seems and is hospitalized. 
Kevin: Oh! That is pretty sad. 
Ann: I know right, Rita love her mom a lot, she goes speechless whenever we speak about parents and family. 
Kevin: What happened to her? 
Ann: Well, I couldn't exactly ask her what is it? Or I didn't feel it right. 
Kevin: True, Moms are truly an emotion we can't see them in pain. 
[Ann suddenly slows down, and pause for a moment with watery eyes].
Kevin: Hey! Ann are you alright 
Ann: Yeah, weeps slowly
Kevin: calms Ann
Ann can't just stop her rolling tears 
Ann: Kevin! I miss my mom 
A puzzled Kevin 
Kevin: Yes! I can see that. You can talk to me when you feel like sharing, do you need some time? 
Ann: I am sorry, Kevin since the last few days I am missing her badly. 
Kevin silently listens to her. 
Ann: Ever since the pregnancy report I occasionally feel sad and also I do feel good when you take care of me, still I miss my mom badly. 
Kevin: That is alright, my mom also felt the same when she was carrying my brother, she used to feel alone at times. I know how it feels. 
Ann: it could be tough to bring her here right, especially for her home is where there is Dad, dad will not come here leaving his estate and rubber. 
Kevin: Right, so what can we do now? 
Ann: Nothing as such, right! 
Kevin: Mmm, I think you should take some rest, we will find some way to sort this out. 
Ann: Mmm, but I feel better now. 
Kevin: Are you sure? 
Kevin's thought about Ann And Pregnancy
After a cry -breakout usually Ann feels better. This was the bitter and sweet part of her mood swings, reactions are too fast. Usually, she prefers sitting alone but somedays she just love being surrounded, the best way to translate her mood is that she is just perfect with any mood after the test result is positive, Ann has perceived her carriage a big fat responsibility all minute tic and toe can make her react hormones and psychological stress. Its first pregnancy, and she might have studied, heard and saw many things about this phase. I had no idea how to make her feel better. Mostly she may be missing her mom and the food, her favourite food is Aviyal, sambhar, and morru curry typically the sadya. So, tomorrow is her duty day and my off. I think I can make her feel better. 
After the dinner, she slept early, the morning I prepared her some dosa and dropped her till her workplace. I could feel that pain behind her smile, her eyes are special they are expressive whatever is there in the heart just comes right on her eyes. I smiled and waited until Ann entered the entrance. Going back home now I had to think about two people in different roles one the baby the mom, my wife, and my best friend. I am an ok cook, I can prepare chicken and some vegetable curry. Usually chucks of all recipes which have too many process and ingredients, but I don't want to see her in that face again. I decided to call Ann's Mom. Ann's mom and I have a buddy connection, we make fun, and talk a lot. Picked my phone dialled Mom's number. 
Mom: Hey, buddy(On the other side of the phone). 
Kevin: Hey buddy so how is the pepper and hen farm. 
Mom: Pepper is growing, last day Teena and family took 5kg. 
Kevin: Oh! Such trade. 
Mom: Teena is our kid, I just gave it from our store. 
Kevin: For free, Saint.! 
So what about the chickens, ready to fry? 
Mom: Ayeeda! (A colloquial term used sarcastically
Kevin:(Laughs)Mom
Mom: Yes! Now there is something serious. 
Kevin: Yeah! Ann needs you now, how could you just be there and care only about pepper and chickens. She is like mustard in the oil when she cries  
Mom: oh! Did she cry? 
Kevin: Yeah, how did you know it? 
Mom: You know her well, she is a cry baby. 
Kevin: And your cry baby is gonna have a baby. 
Mom: So, she is not only pregnant lady, we all have carried, and you are not the only man who is excited to see the first baby. Chill! 
Kevin: It's already freezing cold here. not any more! 
Mom: OKEY, let us get into the matter. Do you know to bake a cake? 
Kevin: No, I don't think so, she may prefer having it. 
Mom: Then what do you think, she likes most. 
Kevin: I was about to ask that question to you MOM. 
Mom: Well, ya gotcha Rocha,aviyal, sambhar, mooru curry, thorran, pullishery the sadyya. 
Kevin: Now, you speak like her mom. 
Mom: Once a mom will be always a mom. I may sound like beating around the bush but I know to cut the bush too. 
Kevin: Like mom, like daughter pathetic humour sense. 
Mom: mmm, 
Kevin: Well! you have the solution can you just tell me how it is? For sure. Shall I turn on to a video call? 
Mom: Okey, anything for my daughter. 
Ann's mom's instructions were perfect, she despite her age and body pain spend her precious time to bring her daughter's favourite dishes on the table before she arrives. Everything was perfect but the most important to bring the home feeling was still missing. I could make the dishes but the ambience isn't complete.
Ann arrives after work. She opened the door with the spare key, lights were off.
Ann: Kevin, where are you? (Looks out eagerly) 
Ann a familiar voice calls her. 
Ann: Mom, 
Mom: Yes, just look behind on your TV. 
Ann looks behind and sees her mom on the PC. 
Ann laughs and says 
Ann: Mom, this isn't TV. It's a PC. 
Mom: Whatever, why did you cry yesterday. 
Kevin interrupts: she didn't cry, she was just cutting onions. 
Ann looks Kevin annoyingly. 
Mom: Stop looking at him like that Ann, you are gonna be a mother and you were crying for your mother. 
Kevin giggles, Ann pinches Kevin. 
Kevin: Ah that pains. 
Ann stares Kevin again angrily. 
Mom: Ann! Stop doing that to my son, go be fresh, and let us have dinner together. 
Ann: OKEY! Mom. 
Kevin's thoughts now the ambience is lite. Because home is where Mom is there. 

Ann freshens up, though the time schedule was extremely different, for that day we prepared the same dishes, sat & dinned together, as usual, we clicked a picture together. To frame it between our fairy lights. 




















Never Give Up No Matter What Happens!

In this moment, I don't want to give up,I have heard this voice coming up many times when I was about to leave a situation,a dream,I had no idea what it means,but I just followed that voice,that strong inner-voice. 
You know why? that is the strength of inner voice, nobody can touch it or torture with their random voices or misguided ways. Being a strong willed person may end up losing many especially the fake and dishonest!That is the beauty of being yourself. Hope is those who are real, true, strongly bonded, and bounded with pure intentions will be there like a root to hold and grip to catch. That is why some journeys make it worthy than rest of them ,It's not about the battle but the final destination it takes. The more you feel lonely,the more likely the journey is incredible .The more you doubt the more it is confirming,the more isolation the more you gain attention.
Like the heroes of all movie before the success he has to go through unexpected changes and moments, but his determination, wisdom, intuition nearing to that chance of winning he makes a move, a move which all others looks upon skeptically except his blind believe there is nothing to make it sensible, even if it sound hard with some cold words remebering the the real angel his inner voice evokes a immovable spirit within the hero awakes with lots of strength and power next step is he flies  for it . All around even we as audience may feel the stress and fear of loss.
But something magical happens!And the hero wins to be strong.
When he owns success around there is all people who disregarded and misunderstood comes to comfort and send love,you also see people running back for an apology . This is how sometimes even life , the moment we give up an inner voice comes to resuce us saying "Hey! Never Quit"! Believe In Yourself, It's Yours. Never Give Up No Matter What Happens. 
Now! How does a hero becomes hero? is it the challenges he face? the strong headed villian? Or the strong will to go beyond imagination and experience? it's absolutely the strong will, a will which never bothers the will power of competitor. Often the competition is not with outsiders it is within ourself. 
Our thoughts, actions & belief system. 
If you ever feel down say " Never Give Up No Matter What Happens!

The Kiss of Bliss.

The night was surrounded with lanterns and street lights 
A cold night 
We were holding our hands 
In silence 
Not a word interrupted our silence 
So it was beautiful 
He beside me and me beside him. 
I loved silence for the first time, This speechless moment between two talkative tongues is uncomplicated yet complicated. 
Alas! love digged their silence. 

The beauty of night may be was the lights around, coldness or a delightful warmth. 
No, no it was that adorable silence and warmth of our love. 
Our eyes were watery 
All we knew was, we never wanted to leave ourselves not even for a second. 
That silence slowly faded as we walked. 

The tears rolled over our eyes in silence 
A wind slowly patted our emotions. 
The wait is over! 
This moment was worth waiting we whisphered gently to our souls,looking away, taking gentle breaths. 

Before I gathered the courage to speak 
He grabed my waist, held me tight and kissed! 
The first warm kiss in that cold night. 
Frozen and melted over the sweetness of my sweetheart. 

Hallelujah!Love is such an art! 


The time stopped, I could feel his heartbeats which was beating faster and slowly rushing down. 
This was true! This was true 
This is true, His hearts didn't lie 
His warmth wasn't a lie 
That warm kiss ignited my soul on fire 
A fire to respire, 
A fire which never turned off. 
We promised with a kiss to stayforever. 
And we decided that we may and will kiss to eternity. 
And Yes We Decided To Kiss! To Kiss

To kiss in between the love and chaos 
To kiss in between the land and tide 
To kiss inbetween the love and hate 
To kiss inbetween the happiness and sadness. 
To kiss inbetween day and night 
To kiss inbetween the odd and even. 
To kiss inbetween the nakedness and madness. 
To kiss inbetween the mild and wild. 
To kiss in bliss with bliss without missing each other forever and more. 

Let us kiss forever! 
Don't miss a kiss 
Kiss when you love, kiss when you know, kiss to heal, kiss to inspire. I believe in kiss which holds truth of love, true emotions. 





Sex - Always Vs Why not always?

I was talking about low mood to one of my friends casually over text, he immediately replied Do Sex, because sometimes doing weird things could make you feel better."
I started thinking upon this exchange for a few hours, Is it really weird? THEN WHY THIS rainbow, unconstitutional 377 to birth facts of animals, birds, plants. The living being around us get involved, not sure weirdly or awkwardly but they do it naturally like it's meant to be done for continuity as the science says to preserve and more.
Is this act of intimacy such a weirdo deed? pleasure is just one of its  concomitant, it can be done effortlessly as an art, habit or just randomly for no such corollary. It could be exciting but does is it always or not always satisfactory. Could it heal the loneliness, inner conflicts always? Or not always? Is it that weird thing which can make anybody better? LIKE REALLY
If so our existence is the biggest spam ever. Then! All of us are part of Earth because somebody decided to do this weirdest act called sex to make them feel better.'Then my birth could be unethical.
And I concluded sex is a physical emotional state of affection, warmth, love, desire. A purely natural react.
SEX isn't traded, it's divine as love, I know they call it lust, but then why they address it as Making -Love? Why they just don't it to anybody? The word sex could be healing sensual, expressive, bold, healthy, choice, need always. REMEMBER BUT NOT ALWAYS.

Falling in love and self-love is the same

Well! There is no secret if, you are truly ready to accept my life patterns, I respect people and consider them genuinely , my idea of love is definitely not a person , Like every other feeling it's emphasized more sometimes as in for movies mostly the feeling is considered between a man and woman or the one which initiates attraction to lust. 
For me love is like any other feeling namely happiness, sadness etc. 

Then! Don't you feel the same intensity in things you enjoy and put your heart and soul from being better to best, does it feels the same? when you get achievements, spending time with family, friends, having your favorite food, listening to all time feel good tracks, while watching movies, visiting serene places, praying silently , this shallow deeds designs everybody to love and know you do this because you love doing it, so the meaning of love is definitely not getting involved and engaged with a person ,nobody acknowledges this as love, because love is viewed with prejudices like kneeling down with rings and roses, caring and holding hands you still isn't aware, it is just a notion, your bunch of expectations from the concerned. Love is synonymous,but not anonymous. 
So if you say falling in love is falling for a person is perfection! Then accept that it's a human-being with phases, moods wings, lows - ups & with another perspective. 
I do agree there is love in between living. Isn't it naive? to belittle love as a person. (forgive me if 'LOVE' is nick name of somebody with a body. 
With Regards 
A strong believer of love/Admirer's Pen(https://web.stagram.com/annaaneetaclement)

A Reaction- For The Response From The Responsible

A Reaction- For The  Response From The Responsible 

Tears rolled down from my eyes.                                                                         
The bitterness speeded into my heart and soul                                 
 I have died many times, breathing dauntingly.                                                     
I have gone through this juncture when a starving man was battered to death ,when another soul laid down to rest after plundering under the shades of streetlight ,yes i have died many times when somebody deprived is oppressed .
I started discerning my own thoughts, questioned the belief system
I was brought up.

Religion 
Yes, my religion gave a set of values that concerns the well-being of everyone When they say religion fan-flamed divisions ,which scripture is asking to kill, rape ,and destroy any being in which page you have read ?I am sure ,you can never find a word or a sentence , from the holy-books which you accuse to be the prime source of your belief system to authorize your insanity inherent .
Indian Constitution 
My education system educated me so
 -India is diverse ,beautiful .one of the world's largest democracy which declared itself to be a sovergein,socialist,secular,and democratic ,a  welfare state to secure justice, liberty and equality for the people, promoting fraternity ,dignity of the individual .
No, Religion or the constitution  is not the villain here ,You .yes you who justifies your absurdity to defame the powerful framework of this nation and its foundation is the bane of my nation ,decimating humanity in the  name of religion is the real atrocity ,with such living monsters nation can never change .They are criminals ,not a religious monk ,a law keeper ,a social reformist ,or an artiste ,whomever concerned according to the constitution is a just a citizen who is equal before law .Isn't it ?

Their dullness is camouflaging the meaning and purpose of institutions.
I am ashamed that I have been an active part of choosing the super -powers of ,my pride "My Country ,My India "to govern .
Yes ,I am  Ashamed, sick and disappointed in everything ,I surmised till yesterday  .
 #Justice for Asifa Banu Is Mandatory To Believe In Justice 


Amplify Emotions -Be Competent


Amplify Emotions –Be Competent


Every day you meet somebody who is incredibly intelligent but couldn’t pull things together and on another end there is somebody who is an average performer but never fails to get the attention of elite authorities, the appreciation what somebody deserves better than the him or her .Now! Why not you or anybody who is punctual, obedient and works effectively doesn’t get enough of praises, bonus and other benefits?
Over last two decades organization have experienced a rudimentary transition, where roles have become more customer oriented than knowledge based with the need to collaborate.  The current shift in management have resulted in overall autonomy .In such an environment  which continuously goes through a process of changing ,the employees find it difficult to handle  set their mind  to terms and conditions of a new team leader , usually an average individual takes up to 1 to 3  months to accommodate themselves to an unfamiliar place and exposition, within this time period the individual may go through so many unknown circumstances both positive as well as negative  happenings which may in future either stop them working or keep moving without  any particular interest or motivation holding a gust of perplexity ,whereas some individuals  “Walk In Style” no matter how hard it is ,not even recession or demonetisation can hold back their high spirits .They know it well  what to tackle first ,which whack hole they should ignore , how to stay calm and smile even the situation is super  annoying & strange .We may often address them as cool ,swag and sometimes in memes captioning"Thug Life ".  lay man  perceive it as shrewd intelligence and browse- How to sound cool?  The matter or the contend why these individuals be spotted first ,may be he is handsome ,may be she is pretty are excuses made to justify the self  .
I always has thought ,why along with etiquttes ,disciplincethis life saving aspect has been discussed or taught in any of the fact filling education system .The art of self marketing skills or self promotions devoid the strokes  any suspicion  of affectation will make people more adaptive and confident bringing best of results according to their core interests .  
A healthy well communicating person always creates an ardour with appealing responses , often reaches their goals easily compared to others on the same page .This reciprocating understanding to oneself as well as the beings around is  known as “Emotional Intelligence” a perspicacity influential than Intelligence Quotient  .
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Goleman defines Emotional Intelligence As –Understanding one’s own feeling, empathy for the feeling of others and the regulation of emotion in a way that enhance living.
Personal Competence
1.      Self Awareness
2.      Self Accurate
3.      Self Confidence
4.      Self Assessment
Social Competence
1.      Relationship Management
2.      Social Awareness

Daniel Goleman divides emotional intelligence mainly into two competencies personal and social.






           “Remember, you can control your feelings!”  
·         Self-Awareness –Being aware of your own Feelings.
·         Self-Regulation - Being able to manage your emotions
·         Motivation - Being able to endure in the phase of discouragement
·         Empathy - Being able to be aware of emotions of others.
·         Social skills - Influencing and handling other’s emotions.

Strengthen Emotional Intelligence
                                                                                      “Practice, Evaluate, Influence!
       Self Awareness
1.      Accept Your Emotions
2.      Note down your feelings and responses.
3.      See yourself as a friend sees you.

“Never Judge Your Emotions, You are Bigger than Your Thoughts & Feelings”.

Self-regulation

1.      Take responsibility Be kind  to your body
2.      Try to calm yourself immediately ( by taking 3 deep breaths)
3.      Be mindful about your positive feelings and experiences
4.      Say a big NO! To negative self -talk  
“Be mindful of your self-talk. It is a conversation you are making with the universe” – (David James Lees)
Motivation

1.      Clarify and prioritize values
2.      Discover and focus  on what you want to do
3.      Set a goal for a specific date
4.      Reward yourself the achievements you make.
“Use your heart and feeling as a compass to keep you on the track on what you really want”  -Andy Smith
Empathy

1.      Put yourself in other’s shoe
2.      Notice a voice change, facial change and the words of whom you communicate.
·         “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity – Weil
 
Social Skills

1.      Build and maintain the rapport.
2.      Know the desired outcome of your interaction
3.      Talk the language which they can understand ,communicate and relate .
4.      Aim for win- win situation
 “Rapport equals trust and comfort” – Neil Strauss.

 Carmeli (2003) states that people with high emotional intelligence are constantly in a good mood and experience a higher level of job satisfaction and well-being (in comparison with people with lower emotional intelligence). Busso (2003) concluded that there is a significant difference relationship between emotional intelligence and career performance as well as job satisfaction. Hasankhoei (2006) reported that there is a significant relationship between emotional intelligence and job satisfaction. Gardner and Stough (2003) observed a significant relationship between emotional intelligence and job satisfaction.