Amplify Emotions -Be Competent

Amplify Emotions –Be Competent

Every day you meet somebody who is incredibly intelligent but couldn’t pull things together and on another end there is somebody who is an average performer but never fails to get the attention of elite authorities, the appreciation what somebody deserves better than the him or her .Now! Why not you or anybody who is punctual, obedient and works effectively doesn’t get enough of praises, bonus and other benefits?

Over last two decades organization have experienced a rudimentary transition, where roles have become more customer oriented than knowledge based with the need to collaborate.  The current shift in management have resulted in overall autonomy .In such an environment  which continuously goes through a process of changing ,the employees find it difficult to handle  set their mind  to terms and conditions of a new team leader , usually an average individual takes up to 1 to 3  months to accommodate themselves to an unfamiliar place and exposition, within this time period the individual may go through so many unknown circumstances both positive as well as negative  happenings which may in future either stop them working or keep moving without  any particular interest or motivation holding a gust of perplexity ,whereas some individuals  “Walk In Style” no matter how hard it is ,not even recession or demonetisation can hold back their high spirits .They know it well  what to tackle first ,which whack hole they should ignore , how to stay calm and smile even the situation is super  annoying & strange .We may often address them as cool ,swag and sometimes in memes captioning"Thug Life ".  lay man  perceive it as shrewd intelligence and browse- How to sound cool?  The matter or the contend why these individuals be spotted first ,may be he is handsome ,may be she is pretty are excuses made to justify the self  .

I always has thought ,why along with etiquttes ,disciplincethis life saving aspect has been discussed or taught in any of the fact filling education system .The art of self marketing skills or self promotions devoid the strokes  any suspicion  of affectation will make people more adaptive and confident bringing best of results according to their core interests .  

A healthy well communicating person always creates an ardour with appealing responses , often reaches their goals easily compared to others on the same page .This reciprocating understanding to oneself as well as the beings around is  known as “Emotional Intelligence” a perspicacity influential than Intelligence Quotient  .

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Goleman defines Emotional Intelligence As –Understanding one’s own feeling, empathy for the feeling of others and the regulation of emotion in a way that enhance living.

Personal Competence 1.      Self Awareness 2.      Self Accurate 3.      Self Confidence 4.      Self Assessment

Social Competence 1.      Relationship Management 2.      Social Awareness

Daniel Goleman divides emotional intelligence mainly into two competencies personal and social.

           “Remember, you can control your feelings!”  

·         Self-Awareness –Being aware of your own Feelings.

·         Self-Regulation - Being able to manage your emotions

·         Motivation - Being able to endure in the phase of discouragement

·         Empathy - Being able to be aware of emotions of others.

·         Social skills - Influencing and handling other’s emotions.

Strengthen Emotional Intelligence

                                                                                      “Practice, Evaluate, Influence!

       Self Awareness

1.      Accept Your Emotions

2.      Note down your feelings and responses.

3.      See yourself as a friend sees you.

“Never Judge Your Emotions, You are Bigger than Your Thoughts & Feelings”.

Self-regulation

1.      Take responsibility Be kind  to your body

2.      Try to calm yourself immediately ( by taking 3 deep breaths)

3.      Be mindful about your positive feelings and experiences

4.      Say a big NO! To negative self -talk  

“Be mindful of your self-talk. It is a conversation you are making with the universe” – (David James Lees)

Motivation

1.      Clarify and prioritize values

2.      Discover and focus  on what you want to do

3.      Set a goal for a specific date

4.      Reward yourself the achievements you make.

“Use your heart and feeling as a compass to keep you on the track on what you really want”  -Andy Smith

Empathy

1.      Put yourself in other’s shoe

2.      Notice a voice change, facial change and the words of whom you communicate.

·         “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity – Weil

 

Social Skills

1.      Build and maintain the rapport.

2.      Know the desired outcome of your interaction

3.      Talk the language which they can understand ,communicate and relate .

4.      Aim for win- win situation

 “Rapport equals trust and comfort” – Neil Strauss.

 Carmeli (2003) states that people with high emotional intelligence are constantly in a good mood and experience a higher level of job satisfaction and well-being (in comparison with people with lower emotional intelligence). Busso (2003) concluded that there is a significant difference relationship between emotional intelligence and career performance as well as job satisfaction. Hasankhoei (2006) reported that there is a significant relationship between emotional intelligence and job satisfaction. Gardner and Stough (2003) observed a significant relationship between emotional intelligence and job satisfaction.