Amplify Emotions –Be
Competent
Every day
you meet somebody who is incredibly intelligent but couldn’t pull things
together and on another end there is somebody who is an average performer but
never fails to get the attention of elite authorities, the appreciation what
somebody deserves better than the him or her .Now! Why not you or anybody who
is punctual, obedient and works effectively doesn’t get enough of praises, bonus
and other benefits?
Over last two decades organization have experienced
a rudimentary transition, where roles have become more customer oriented than knowledge
based with the need to collaborate. The
current shift in management have resulted in overall autonomy .In such an
environment which continuously goes
through a process of changing ,the employees find it difficult to handle set their mind to terms and conditions of a new team leader
, usually an average individual takes up to 1 to 3 months to accommodate themselves to an
unfamiliar place and exposition, within this time period the individual may go
through so many unknown circumstances both positive as well as negative happenings which may in future either stop
them working or keep moving without
any particular interest or motivation holding a gust of perplexity ,whereas
some individuals “Walk In Style” no matter how hard it is ,not even recession or demonetisation can hold back their high spirits .They know it
well what to tackle first ,which whack hole they should ignore , how to stay calm and smile even the situation is super annoying & strange .We may often address them as cool ,swag and sometimes in memes captioning"Thug Life ". lay man perceive it as shrewd
intelligence and browse- How to sound cool? The matter or the contend why these individuals be spotted first ,may be he is handsome ,may be she is pretty are excuses made to justify the self .
I always has thought ,why along with etiquttes ,disciplincethis life saving aspect has been discussed or taught in any of the fact filling
education system .The art of self marketing skills or self promotions devoid the strokes any suspicion of affectation will make people more adaptive and confident bringing best of results according to their core interests .
A healthy well communicating person always creates an ardour
with appealing responses , often reaches their goals easily compared to others on
the same page .This reciprocating understanding to oneself as well as the
beings around is known as “Emotional Intelligence” a perspicacity
influential than Intelligence Quotient .
What
Is Emotional Intelligence?
Goleman defines Emotional Intelligence As
–Understanding one’s own feeling, empathy for the feeling of others and the
regulation of emotion in a way that enhance living.
Personal
Competence
1.
Self
Awareness
2.
Self
Accurate
3.
Self
Confidence
4. Self Assessment
|
Social
Competence
1.
Relationship
Management
2.
Social
Awareness
|
Daniel
Goleman divides emotional intelligence mainly into two competencies personal
and social.
“Remember, you can control your feelings!”
·
Self-Awareness –Being aware of your own Feelings.
·
Self-Regulation
- Being able to manage your emotions
·
Motivation
- Being able to endure in the phase of discouragement
·
Empathy
- Being able to be aware of emotions of others.
·
Social
skills - Influencing and handling other’s emotions.
Strengthen Emotional Intelligence
“Practice,
Evaluate, Influence!
Self Awareness
1. Accept
Your Emotions
2. Note
down your feelings and responses.
3. See
yourself as a friend sees you.
“Never
Judge Your Emotions, You are Bigger than Your Thoughts & Feelings”.
Self-regulation
1. Take responsibility
Be kind to your body
2. Try to calm
yourself immediately ( by taking 3 deep breaths)
3. Be mindful about
your positive feelings and experiences
4. Say a big NO! To negative
self -talk
“Be mindful of your self-talk. It is a conversation you are making with
the universe” – (David James Lees)
Motivation
1. Clarify and
prioritize values
2. Discover and
focus on what you want to do
3. Set a goal for a
specific date
4. Reward yourself the achievements
you make.
“Use your heart and feeling as a compass to keep you on the track on
what you really want” -Andy Smith
Empathy
1. Put yourself in
other’s shoe
2. Notice a voice change,
facial change and the words of whom you communicate.
· “Attention is the rarest
and purest form of generosity – Weil
Social Skills
1.
Build and maintain the rapport.
2.
Know the desired outcome of your interaction
3.
Talk the language which they can understand ,communicate and relate .
4.
Aim for win- win situation
“Rapport
equals trust and comfort” – Neil Strauss.
Carmeli
(2003) states that people with high emotional intelligence are constantly in a
good mood and experience a higher level of job satisfaction and well-being (in
comparison with people with lower emotional intelligence). Busso (2003)
concluded that there is a significant difference relationship between emotional
intelligence and career performance as well as job satisfaction. Hasankhoei
(2006) reported that there is a significant relationship between emotional
intelligence and job satisfaction. Gardner and Stough (2003) observed a
significant relationship between emotional intelligence and job satisfaction.
